Entry #12: 11 Ways To Awaken The Divine Feminine

January 18th, 2022, 4:44am

Dear Aspiring Mama, 

Today I want to share with you a 11 ideas, practices, and resources to support you in releasing the shackles of the out of balance masculine to awaken the divine feminine and ultimately restore balance within yourself and around you.

This won’t be a one time thing. 

To awaken the divine feminine and allow it to lead the way while also allowing the masculine to take its place, will require intentional practice.

For many, this shift will feel awkward, foreign even. Brought up in an era that favoured the out of balance masculine energy, we learned to suppress the most beautiful parts of ourselves in order to “succeed”. However a conscious shift in who we are being and how we are doing life is necessary in order to awaken the mother within you and embrace the journey of her unfolding.

To let the beauty that you are come alive again. Or maybe for the first time.

Welcome The Flow Of The Divine Feminine & Divine Masculine

The energies of feminine and masculine are continuously dancing, flowing, and moving together.

As you tune in to the other fundamental principles I’ve shared with you:

1. Focus On You,
2. Pleasure Not Pressure,
3. Raising Your Vibration to Love or Above,
4. Honouring Your Natural Rhythm,
5. And welcoming divine guidance, the feminine and masculine energies will more easily find their right place—for you.

At times the masculine will lead. While others the feminine and masculine will be intertwined and become one. And today we will allow the feminine to lead knowing very well that the Divine Masculine, in its full integrity, feels whole when the Divine Feminine takes her place. 

So take your place. And notice how everything around you starts to fall into place too.

Ideas & Practices To Awaken The Divine Feminine Within & Around You

01 | Dance

Dancing is one of the best ways to allow energy to shift and recalibrate. When you allow the beat to take over and your body to move freely, something inevitably happens. You loosen up. Start being. In the moment. Your childlike spirit comes alive. You feel—sometimes intensely. Joy starts to take over. Then; serenity and bliss become you.

The feminine thrives here.

Invitation: Choose a few songs that awaken your feminine nature. It can be Hall & Oats, Taylor Swift, or Songs Of Native Women I shared with you yesterday. You’ll know when the song touches your soul.

Dance everyday this week (and beyond).

I don’t dance every day, but most. I even got a disco ball hanging in our living room as a reminder to dance. One of my favourite things is a family dance party or a slow with my man—he does as if he does it for me, but I can see how much he loves it too!

If you’re ready to go next level—and I hope that you are—here’s a bonus:

Dance naked in front of a mirror. Release any judgement or criticism. Look at how beautiful you are. Allow your body to move in a way that cleanses your spirit. You may go through a myriad of emotions. Let them come through you. Trauma may come up. Let it rise so that it can be release. Cry and dance. Laugh and dance. Smile and dance. Then, just dance. 

02 | Spend Time In Nature

Nature is perfectly balanced. Being with her will help to restore what is not within you. 

Go for a walk in the woods, let the trees hold you. Place your hands on them—they will speak to you. Now I know this may seem a little too “woo woo” for some, but it’s not. When  you start to connect more deeply with nature, you start to see that what is “woo woo” is being disconnected from it, and this can be confronting. So welcome the confrontation in the name of restoring harmony within yourself. 

Take care of a plant. You’ve probably heard of the term “plant mom” and thought it was silly to call yourself as such. But again, it is not “woo woo.” Mothering a plant is natural, Mother Nature does it all the time. If you don’t have woods to walk into, bringing a plant into your home and tending to it lovingly will open something in you. It will require presence, patience, mindfulness. 

03 | Be In The Presence Of Babies, Animals, & Flowers

Their purity will reflect back your own. And of course spending time with babies is a great way to awaken your feminine nature and support your journey to becoming a mom!

04 | Swim aka Unleash The Mermaid

If you’re a mermaid at heart as I am, you will find your feminine nature awaken quickly when swimming freely. Ideally in the ocean, but a local pool is perfect. And if there is no pool closely (or open for that matter), soaking in a bath will do.

Just be in the water.

Feel the weight of the world come off your shoulders. Dive in. Swim like a mermaid. Play like a dolphin. Body surf and become one with the waves (or go on the kid slide at the pool!)

05 | Change Your Clothes

I worked at lululemon athletica for nearly 8 years and taught yoga. Wearing tight, form-fitting clothing was my life.  

But I feel most feminine, I want to wear clothes that flow as I do—or none at all. Anything tight feels constricting and uncomfortable, at least when worn for too long. I still love my leggings, don’t get me wrong, but I change out of them when their purpose is no longer being served. In fact, part of my self-care as a mom is to change a few times a day such that what I am wearing aligns with the theme of the moment or supports how I want to feel.

What we wear influences our energy and way of being. Choose clothes that awaken the feminine, not stifle it or play to the out of balance ideal of what a woman should wear. 

You don’t need to wear boho dresses everyday, but be my guest if you want to! But look at what you wear as an opportunity to tap into and deepen your connection to the divine feminine!

If you spend much of your day in an environment that requires you to be in your masculine energy, (i.e. work as a police officer) make it a ritual to change into feminine clothing when you come home to restore the balance. 

• Choose colours that light you up.
• Fabrics that feel good.
• Styles that accentuate the uniqueness of your body. 

I’m not saying that you need to splurge and buy a new wardrobe—I’m all about less is more and love the concept of the 10 item wardrobe. However, if you need to boost your feminine energy, go out and find a piece of clothing that speaks to that. If you follow me on instagram you will see that this lavender sweater is my daily go-to.

Get rid of what doesn’t fit the woman you are becoming. 

A key to manifesting anything we desire in life is to raise our vibration to the vibration of the thing we say we desire. 

Read that again.

That being said, take inventory of your closet.

• Is it organized in a way that aligns with your desire for motherhood?
• Are there items that no longer fit or that you have outgrown energetically?
• Get rid of what you no longer need, even if you don’t have anything to replace it with (without ignoring practicality and seasonal necessities—hello winter boots!)

Creating space will make room for what you are calling in. And this action alone can create such a massive shift within yourself as you unconsciously declare your intention of becoming a mom with every hanger placed in a way that says that you are already on your way.

You don’t need to buy maternity clothes, but hell, if it inspires you to do so, go for it!

06 | Be Playful

Remember Principle #2, Pleasure Not Pressure? This is a gentle reminder to go out there and unleash your playful spirit today!

Choose pleasure. Choose what feels good.

07 | ROAR!

Being feminine isn’t about being a pushover, being nice, or never speaking up. Those qualities tend to show up in the wounded feminine. So as you awaken the sacred feminine, allow the volume of your voice to go up as well. 

• Speak your truth.
• Stand up for what you believe in.
• Yell (Not at someone but solely as a way to raise your vibration. Try this: when on that walk in the woods, ground yourself and yell at the top of your lungs. Scream “I AM (your name))

08 | Review, Set, and Respect Your Boundaries

• Do you have clear boundaries for yourself in every area of your life?
• Are you comfortable saying yes and no in order to respect what is true for you?
• Where in your life do you disregard your boundaries most? What one thing can you do to declare a new boundary and start respecting it starting now?

Setting and honouring boundaries is an ongoing process. I am far from having this nailed down. But ultimately I realize how the idea that what works best for me is best for everyone is really true. 

I know when I’ve crossed a boundary when I don’t feel good about a decision I’ve made, feel frustrated, withdrawn, or a sudden rush of fatigue. It happens a lot but I’m quicker at restoring integrity with myself and those involved. 

I say NO, a lot. It isn’t usually comfortable however it is necessary for me to live my life sustainably.

Committing to respecting your boundaries and being unapologetic about doing so is something that is deeply important for me to continue developing, particularly as a mom. I want to be so aligned within myself that I show my daughter that it is not only okay but perfectly normal to do so. And this means that I often need to set boundaries with her. From acknowledging that I need alone time to being firm in my no to her doing something that isn’t safe or something I’d accept from anyone else. 

Boundaries, these will come up again. Take note. Begin honouring yours now.

09 | Rest

Yesterday I mentioned how I nearly ignored the inner voice that suggested that I take a few minutes to recharge. I am glad that I didn’t. 

When I listen to the call for rest, I also become better at listening the call for wakefulness. Today I was up at 3:40am and it felt natural. My wake-up time varies from 4am-7am and I’ve created a life that honours that. 

The fatigue I experience is rarely from lack of sleep (although that has happened when I disregard my needs). Usually fatigue is a result of not speaking my truth, taking on too much, or doing too much alone—part due to a tendency of independence, part pandemic. 

Needless to say, honour your need for rest as much as you can. If you’ve been living a life where the feminine and masculine energies are out of balance, you may be tired or even burnt out. It might take days, weeks, months even before you feel fully recharged. 

When I intentionally stepped into calling in my man and becoming a mom, I also turned off my alarm. For months I slept as much as I needed and was surprised to see just how tired I had become. Eventually however, my natural rhythm of waking up early came back and I rarely ever use an alarm clock anymore. 

10 | Learn About The Brilliance Of Your Cycle

“I’ve been thinking about getting off the pill.” I said to my osteopath.

“If you’ve been thinking about it, it’s probably time. Your body knows.” He said. 

I never took the pill again. This was years ago. 2015 I believe. 

I had been on the pill on and off since I was 14 or something ridiculous like that. Before I was sexually active and without any guidance about the sacredness of my cycle and sex for that matter. 

Learning about the amazing power our cycles contain and reveal about who we are as women, is breathtaking. I invite you to deepen your connection to your cycle and to not limit yourself to when you bleed. This podcast episode is a great place to start. 

We will dive more into your cycle another day but if you want more, below is the video I shared back in 2019 about my process. I remember receiving a call from my sister after posting this. She was upset and questioned what I was doing sharing this. I was shook. And made the video “unlisted”. Looking back now, I cannot even fathom hesitating sharing about this journey with anyone! What a difference a few years can make (and becoming a mom in particular.)

P.S. I was pregnant during this video but hadn’t shared publicly yet!

11 | Develop Your Intuition

Here I was thinking that I would make this entry short and sweet. However, I let intuition guide my finger pads on the keyboard. 

The voice of reason (often overly masculine) is saying it’s too long. But my intuitive nature is deeply feminine and I’m going to trust it. Trust yours. 

We are born intuitive, male or female. However we loose this early on. Often as soon as we leave the womb. Welcomed into a world that wants to control your breathing, sleep, and how much to drink or eat.

But intuition is powerful. It lives on. Always with us. Offering whispers every step of the way. 

When you awaken the divine feminine, your intuitive nature will expand. Do not resist it. Even if it feels like a lot at times, surrender. 

Pay attention to how you feel when you walk into a room. Or when you meet someone. When buying something. Tune in. Your intuition speaks in simple easy to understand language. A clear yes or no. Have the courage to follow it. 

RESOURCES

As you give space for the feminine to awaken, your wounds may need healing. You’ll need plenty of space to play, rest, and restore. Space to connect with nature. Tap into your intuition. Express yourself freely. Safely.

If you’d like to explore what working together 1:1 can look like click here. I only work with a few people at a time and those who are committed to their growth and development. If you feel called to explore working with me, answer.

Here are a few other resources to support you:

Rise Sister Rise by Rebecca Campbell

Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Ph.D.

Disrupt Her by Miki Agrawal

Read more about the Divine Feminine here.

Podcast: Your Cycle, Your Self: Period Empowerment, Fertility Awareness, & The Risks Of Hormonal Birth Control with Dr Elizabeth Wade

I’ll be back tomorrow with the last piece of our groundwork: Assumptions & Agreements 

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With so much love,

Melissa