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Overcome “Privilege Shame”

Image with question: Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?

How are you my love?

It’s a gorgeous day here in my hometown of Sainte-Agathe. The sun is shining, the sky is blue, and the new leaves are dancing in the cool breeze.

I love this time of year when spring and summer start co-creating. There is still that feeling of new beginnings that spring exudes and the feeling of play and freedom that summer calls us to. It is truly magical.

And yet, here I am sitting at my home office desk, sipping intermittently on an overly sweetened turmeric latte (just as I like it) and I am thinking of you—how you are doing, really, your goals, your dreams, and the underlying feeling that most don’t get access to because you do such a good job at making everything look “fine.”

But if we are being real, “fine” just isn’t cutting it anymore.

You know it.

You feel it when a feeling of jealousy or envy shows up and you try to shut it up but it creates tension in your body.

You see it in your eyes when you dare to look at yourself in the mirror without makeup and catch a glimpse of the part of you that wants something more then quickly look away.

You hear it when the whispers of your heart start speaking to you when you’re alone, in nature, or about to do something that you have been dreading for too long now.

The thing is, it’s scary to admit that things aren’t actually “fine” and that you want to THRIVE and live a life that turns you the fuck on when on the outside you live a life of privilege.

And right now you are living in “privilege shame” with thoughts like:

 

  • Who am I to want more than what I have now?

 

  • I am so grateful for everything in my life.

 

  • Why can’t I just be content already?

 

  • I don’t really need _____________ (insert the experiences, dreams, or desires you aspire to)

 

What you don’t realize is that there are forces beyond what you can see that influence what you desire and are called to in this lifetime.

Your dreams, goals, and aspirations—the ones that make your eyes light up and ignite a feeling that is hard to put into words inside of your womb space—aren’t random.

They choose you for a reason.

And you have the freedom to choose them if you are willing to break free of the conditioning that tries to convince you that wanting what you desire is selfish, wrong, or narcissistic.

I can’t tell you why you want to quit your job and start a wildflower farm in the countryside, or why you suddenly feel obsessed about the idea of travelling to Portugal and are starting to see signs telling you to go when it wasn’t on your radar just a few months ago.

I can’t explain why you wake up one morning and can’t pretend that the life you are living is no longer in alignment with the life that you are now called to live.

What I can say is that the longer you resist leaning into what is calling you and admitting that the life you are currently living isn’t cutting it, the greater the impact on your joy, freedom, and overall well-being.

The impact might seem small at first. Like a leaky faucet that can easily be ignored. The water will drip slowly until one day the container overflows. And this overflow in our lives can manifest itself as illness, accidents, and drama in our lives.

You might not think that numbing with an extra glass of wine or a few more minutes scrolling on social media are costing you much, but with time, what’s underneath will eventually show itself. Remember how the Titanic crashed into an iceberg? Well, what is below the surface is usually much bigger than what we see on the surface.

It takes courage to slow down enough to not only avoid crashing, but to actually go under water and examine the icebergs in our lives.

And I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you if you haven’t mustered the courage yet. Much of what is “holding you back” are related to the impact of patriarchal conditioning, oppression, and unhealed trauma. Your doubts and fears aren’t truly who you are.

You don’t need to see the entire path ahead. All you need is the ability to take a few deep(ish) breaths and take that first step…even if it is an itty bitty one.

You are meant for more and that is beautiful. The Universe is continuously expanding as are you!
You are meant to shine as bright as the sun, and in order to do so, you must embrace the shadows. This is what MATRIARCH will help you with.

I invite you to explore the program, and chances are if you have read to this point, there is something in it for you.

I know how scary it can be to say YES to yourself, if you feel that showing up for you, book a call with me for us to connect and see if MATRIARCH is right for you. My intention is to support you in making the best decision, whether that is to join or not.

Trust yourself. Believe in your magic. Give yourself permission to choose yourself because your playing small and staying stuck in privilege shame is not serving the world. And trust me, the world needs your unique gifts and the creations that you and you alone are here to birth.

Sending so much love,
Mel

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2 Comments
  • Laurie Neumann
    Posted at 16:06h, 23 October

    These are great quotes. I love to post inspirational quotes on social media and use it as a platform to encourage others. Thanks so much for sharing these.

  • melissacolleret
    Posted at 01:08h, 24 October

    Glad you enjoyed these Laurie! Thanks for letting me know!

    With love & light,
    Melissa