Want to make your journey to and through motherhood more enjoyable? Check out the six principles that will guide you to become a mom!

So let’s get started! I’m going to walk you through each one of these fundamental six that will be the keys to help you create your motherhood and realize your baby dreams while feeling f-ing fabulous!

In no particular order—as they are all equally important—they are:

1. Focus on you
2. Pleasure not pressure
3. Love or above
4. Honour your natural rhythm
5. Trust divine guidance
6. Lead with the feminine 

You can watch the latest episode of the Create Your Motherhood Summer Series or keep on reading as we review what each of these mean and what they can do for you!

First, these 6 principles are the foundation, the pillars if you will, upon which we will build your dream of becoming a mom and enhance your life as one.

Second, these six principles will serve you on your way to and through motherhood:

• Whether you are an aspiring mama dreaming of becoming a mom,
• A soon-to-be mama feeling baby kicks for the first time,
• A new mom taking a moment to read this article as you breastfeed or simply lay on the couch solo for a few minutes.
• Or a mama like me who is entering a new cycle and is feeling the call to creating more babies soon.

Third, they are your guides in time of need in order for you to stay the course and make sure that you are being true to yourself and avoid becoming someone else’s version of “mom.”

Lastly, remember, no one can tell you exactly how to create your journey to motherhood. YOU are the best at doing that. 

Above all, my goal is to simply offer you a framework in hope that it will inspire and empower you and save you some scrapes and bruises along the way.

So, I came up with these six principles. These are the same ones I used to guide me toward meeting my partner, Alex, and prepare my mind, body, and spirit to conceive our baby girl.

Consequently, these are the six principles that I am using to create and prepare myself for the dream of having another baby and elevating my relationship.

In the Create Your Motherhood Program, these will be front and centre every step of the way.

One more thing before we dive in, make these your own. Try these out. Add others that your inner voice is asking you to. Trust your womb’s wisdom.

Ready? Let’s go!

Principle #1: Focus On You

Although many of us haven’t been on too many planes this past year or so but you might have heard the analogy of putting the oxygen mask on yourself first in life just as you would on a crashing plane. 

Yes? (Insert sigh as chances are you have heard this a thousand times—yet need the reminder) 

I sincerely hope that you NEVER have to put an oxygen mask on while one a crashing plane but I do hope that you put the analogy to use every single day in your one precious, amazing, life!

That being said, principle #1 is all about focusing on you! 

This is your journey to becoming a mom, not someone else’s. So for the sake of our work together, I strongly encourage you to be as selfish as possible—not in the narcissistic kind of way but in the you gotta put your mask on first in order to live and be your fabulous self and offer your gifts for the the world kind of way.

That is to say that while considering your desire for becoming a mom for the first, second, or nth time that you crank up the volume of your inner wisdom and shut out the voices from the outside world.

This includes—and is not limited to your:

• Spouse (current or the one you are calling in)
• Children (born or unborn)
• Parents (we will deal with your mommy & daddy issues another time)
• Friends (even if it seems that everyone is pregnant or hang with a crowd that is anti having kids in this crazy world)
• Boss (who slides subtle messages that having kids would ruin your career or encourages you to “lean in” the day after your cat dies)
• Community (who you may or may not feel connected to)
• Cultural influence 
• Religious constructs (that may or may not be out of alignment with your own spirit)
• Etc.

Let me repeat: FOCUS ON YOU!

• What you want.
• What you are called to.
• Who you feel destined to become.
• How you want to live your life.
• How you want to create your Motherhood journey.

Focus on you. It’s a practice. Hopefully it becomes second nature so that you can show others that they too can honour their truth and be themselves around you.

Principle #2: Pleasure Not Pressure

If I had a penny for every time I needed someone to remind me of this, I would empty every dollar store shelves of their penny roller papers—remember those?!

In other words, I’d be rich AF.

And I am. Mostly with the experience of what it’s like to put way too much pressure on yourself and how counterproductive this is on your journey to and through motherhood.

Luckily, I’ve grown to reawaken my innate nature that was born to experience pleasure on a daily basis. (NB you too were born with this btw)

When I was intentional on my journey to creating motherhood someone recommended Rebecca Campbell’s Rise Sister Rise—I too highly recommend that you read or listen to it.

Campbell suggests that we choose pleasure over pressure. And simply hearing her say these words in her Aussie/British accent via the audible app made my entire body shift.

I’ve been trying to live by that mantra ever since.

I was in full pleasure mode the summer leading up to the conception of Alicia, all through pregnancy—except the throwing up my smoothie bowl by the roadside, and for several months after she was born. I took a break between end of November and only recently got back on track. Thank fucking God. Pressure is fabulous when you study the laws of physics but terrible when you are trying to become or be a happy, healthy, sane mom.

So take my word for it, choose pleasure over pressure at any chance you get. 

Start taking note of the areas of your life where your pressure tendencies are activated. 

Ask yourself: What would this activity of area of my life look like if I allowed pleasure to lead the way?

Principle #3: Love Or Above

A few years ago I watched this talk by Christie Marie Sheldon and it changed my life for two reasons:

1. She planted the seed in me that I could indeed get paid to be ME.
2. That we should all aim to live our lives from the vibrational energy of LOVE OR ABOVE.

We won’t talk about getting paid to be you in this post, but let’s look at living from a place of love or above.

Check out the graphic below. You will see the vibrational energy rankings of key emotions. Love, peace, joy, and enlightenment are all up there! 

In the Create Your Motherhood Program we aim to live our lives from the place of LOVE OR ABOVE.

Now, this doesn’t mean that anger, fear, grief, or shame don’t show their faces every once in a while.

What it means is that when they do, we call in love to help us clear the way, heal, and choose the next best move.

Principle #4: Honour Your Natural Rhythm

Have you ever looked at a river and thought, “wow, it should really slow the fuck down.”

Or looked at a young tree and say, “speed up buddy, the clock is ticking.”

I didn’t think so. (If you answered yes, I have no words. Actually, I do. Read on.)

Mother Nature has created the perfect pace for every little thing down to the speed at which sperm travels to the birth canal to the time it takes for the sun to set—ever so slowly at first, frozen in time at golden hour, and impressively quickly as it slips below the horizon. It’s perfect. So is your natural rhythm.

If you’ve been living out of alignment or in a society that celebrates busyness and expressions like “work yourself to death,” “I don’t have time” and “Boxing Day Madness,” your job is to surrender and allow for your rhythm to be restored.

This won’t happen overnight despite your internal system doing its very best each day to keep you in perfect harmony. 

But a little shift each day will quite literally change your physiology—or rather, restore it.

It takes about 9 months to create a baby, give or take a few weeks—unless exceptional circumstances like premature babies of course. 

No matter how much we try, there is no rushing or slowing down this process.

Although I’m sure someone is looking into a way to make a baby in 30 days—I rarely say this, but fuck that guy. Mother Nature knows what’s up and I stand by her design.

I hope that you will too and start by honouring your own.

You can’t become a mom faster than you will. But you can honour your process and the pace at which you show up every day. Perhaps that way you will become more present to your life and this may be just the catalyst needed for everything to fall into place.

And if you’re worried about time, you may want to check out this TEDX talk by travel author and instagram star Jedidiah Jenkins. It will rock your world.

We will talk more about honouring your divine timing in a future post and in the Create Your Motherhood Program.

All I will say now is: 

• Start where you are, 
• Be intentional, 
• If you’re in your 30s or 40s surround yourself with examples of other women who have become mothers at your age or beyond for inspiration. Your 20s are over, stop wishing they’d come back—you ain’t got time for that.

Principle #5: Trust Divine Guidance

Every few days I sit down at the kitchen table, turn to a blank page of my journal or new note in my iphone and write to God, The Universe, Mother Nature, or My Council Of Light. 

Yup.

I tell them what’s on my mind and ask them to guide me. Once I have poured my truth out, I invite them to respond through me.

They always do.

Sometimes with a quick reminder to RELAX or pages worth of guidance with simple action or an invitation to go spend time in nature where I will undoubtedly receive the insight I needed or more often, shift the energy that was blocking me from moving forward.

I don’t consider myself a religious person but rather an energetic being living a spiritual experience who is open to expanding her capacity to receive the wisdom beyond what I can see or understand. 

Trusting divine guidance has served me and will serve you. If anything it will allow you to feel less alone on your journey to and through motherhood. 

So call it what you want; divine guidance, source energy, God, Mother Nature, spirit guides, knowing, instinct, the pink bunny that you’ve had since you were 2, I don’t care. As long as you’re willing to allow external wisdom to awaken your inner wisdom, everything will be alright.

Principle #6: Lead With The Feminine

In Episode #3 of the Create Your Motherhood Summer Series I shared with toi (should read you, but gonna leave this french slip just for kicks) a few ways that you can awaken your feminine energy and in turn restore the feminine/masculine balance within you. 

The idea of leading with the feminine comes from the fact that motherhood is, and always will be, inherently feminine/biologically female traits. To clarify, I am specifically referring to the aspect of motherhood related to conceiving, carrying, and birthing children.

Therefore, cultivating and allowing space for your innate feminine nature to grow and thrive is an important aspect of creating fertile ground. Particularly, when you are on your way to becoming a mom. And being a stand for what you and your baby needs once you become one. 

So there you have it!

Six principles to support you on your journey to and through motherhood!

Let me know what you think and which principle speaks to you most! 

Leave a comment below! And if you’re a recovering straight A student wannabe, please share this with your friends. I promise I’ll give you an A in the Create Your Motherhood Program 😉 

Much love!

Mel

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